30 Mar
30Mar

SInce the birth of civilization, as long as humans existed, relating has been the prime focus of the human being. We either long for human relating or suffer because of it. The relating can be with an individual or a group, ideas (faith, vision, purpose) or ways of living life (culture). We relied on it to make us feel not alone, belonged, accepted and appreciated. We relied on it to make us feel safe, when facing dangers - that we are not alone and can face it better with the other.


At work, we may have a mental boundary and call it professional, but the people whom we relate still have their own emotions, ideas, faith and beliefs. And when the outcome of this relating has high stakes such as getting salary to feed and have a roof,  keeping the job to keep self and family cared continuously and all the way up to getting promotions, praises in fulfilling and powerful jobs that satisfies higher needs of Maslow's triangle, relating becomes super important.


Some of us have moved from one job to the other, when things or people do not align with our ideas and emotions. And the higher demand for talent than supply in this industrial world makes it possible for this job change. Only until we find out the human relating challenges also exist in the new job and shows up after the honeymoon period. And for those of us who has constraints in moving jobs, the relating challenges are daunting and there is no way out.


Understanding relating with anyone starts with understanding relating to oneself, first. The Universe moves by relating and everything and everyone relates, whether conscious or not. Grounding, calming and understanding oneself and one's skill to relate makes a big difference in being mentally and physically healthy. Ancient education focussed on life skills such as relating. Unfortunately, we do not learn enough and early in life that can help us, be at peace, at work.

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